Work from home single mother striving to keep her son's childhood magical.

Oct 23, 2009

Shouting the New Spanking?

This morning I actually watched The Early Show regarding their segment on, Is Shouting the New Spanking? I have read and have been involved in discussions about this very topic, so when I was drinking my coffee I was really interested what their take was on this subject.

What do you think?

This is what I believe. I believe if you participate in an action that makes you feel good, then do it. I have NEVER felt good for raising my voice to my boys. I have made a conscience decision as their mother to filter what I say. "How do I do this?" What works for me is leaving the situation for a bit. For example entering a quiet room to relax, take a shower, or a brisk walk.

A dear friend told me once that when conversing with your children, before opening your mouth think this...

" If someone told you what you are about to say to your child, and it made you feel good. Then for all means tell them. But, if it would make you feel anything less than good. DON'T SAY IT AT ALL."

Thats some awesome stuff there! When we speak to our children with joy and respect, they respond back to us the same. Isn't that the joyful life you are striving for? I know it is here in our home.

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May you have a great weekend with your family filled with love, respect, and compassion.

With Love,
Nush
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2 comments:

  1. Agreed. I try sooo hard not to shout/yell at my kids and it's hard, but I get a lot better results when I DON'T. I read somewhere once, a woman said (basically), "We have a rule in my house. If someone does something that angers me and I start yelling, the consequence automatically goes away. If I disrespect them like that, I lose all credibility." I try to remember those words when one of my kids has done something I don't like. How can we teach them to respect others by shouting/yelling at them?!

    As far as it being the new spanking... maybe. I see lots of shows and have been around people that "don't believe in spanking" yet they never stop shouting! Ugh. I suppose lots of parents these days grew up in shouting households so maybe they all think it's normal. It's just as emotionally detrimental as spanking is physically.
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  2. Great comment Blaire!

    -love the whole credibility thing too. Totally right.on.the.money.
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